The other day, one of my (non-military related) friends asked me “You are always talking about your husband’s work and promoting his ship’s accomplishments, are all wives like that?”
I was so proud to say that yes, here in Seward, the other wives from our boat support and share the great successes of their husbands and the crew of the USCGC MUSTANG. It is truly remarkable to see the pride and excitement that the other spouses and their children have for the Coast Guard and the amazing job they do for our country.
It isn’t like that everywhere though. So this post is just a small reminder to those support spouses out there, that although we might not be the ones putting on the uniform, we have a job to do for the military too. We are the advocates and the journalists, the cheerleaders and the voices for those men and women who don’t have the ability or time to pat themselves on the back for the hard work they do.
It used to be that your marks or OERs reflected not only your work, but often mentioned your spouse as well. It was expected that not only did the military member do a good job, but that their spouse was responsible for making a good impression. So many support spouses volunteer their time and money to help those in the community in which they live because they of all people know first hand that we all need some help sometimes.
I recommend to all my support spouses, that you encourage each other to get together and volunteer throughout your community. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, but the more you show your face, the more people appreciate your spouses job. Write an article in the local paper, help out in the kid’s classroom, get involved in the YMCA or city recreational center. I have made a lot of friends by volunteering here in Seward, and I am proud to say that they all have a greater understanding of the Coast Guard because of it. The other wives of the MUSTANG are always helping others out and posting pictures of the great work their husbands do. They babysit for others, they lend a hand for pet sitting, they integrate themselves and kids into the community and they have made it so that the gap between military and civilian doesn’t have to be so big.
We may not be mentioned in the evaluations anymore, but we still have an important job to do. These communities see military families come and go all the time. We bust in on their lives, become friends and then sadly have to leave again. Wouldn’t it be great, if while our military spouses were out saving lives, to be back on the home front changing them? There are a lot of us and we can accomplish a great deal if we work together.
We may not have been the ones that chose to serve in the military, but chose to marry the ones that did. It may not be your career, but I guarantee that your spouses job is easier when you support them. We are stretched thin as it is so I know giving the extra time is tough. But, I promise you, there is always someone out there that needs your help. My husband, and his crew are always ready, but I am so proud to say that me and the wives are Semper Supportantes (always supporting)!